1feel·ing
noun \ˈfē-liŋ\
: an awareness by your body of something in it or on it
: an emotional state or reaction
: thoughts of wanting to help someone who is sick, hungry, in trouble, etc.
I have been in many emotional states lately.
Calm
Crazed
Sad
Angry
Happy
and the list could go on and on.
Today I feel anxious. It feels like my heart is going to beat right out of my chest. Although that could be the fact that I’ve had two cups of coffee. One more than usual.
Something happened on the school bus to one of my children. No details needed, but it is forcing me to communicate with my stbex. When I cut off contact with him I felt strong. Alive. Happy. Peaceful. Now I have to speak with him regarding this incident and all of my bad feelings come back. I don’t want to cry, I don’t want to be angry. I don’t want to wonder if this could be fixed. I know it can’t. My mind is swirling with all of these thoughts and sometimes I can’t stop it. I try to focus on my breathing. Walk when walking. Be in the moment, be present, chant, mantra, knitting, reading.
My mind is my worst enemy. I wish I could take out my brain, wash away the bad stuff, and put it back in. Erase any confusing, swirling thoughts and start fresh. Isn’t that what erasers are for? Removing the mistake and starting over?
When I wasn’t communicating with him I wasn’t having any confusing, sad thoughts. All I could think about were me and the kids. He’s pushing things with his lawyer and it’s starting to take a toll with me. I just wish he could go away.
I wish I could erase him. Start over. Bring back the original sketch of the man I married. But I can’t.
Breathe in, breathe out.
One day at a time.